[How do I move past judgment? I know it's based on elevating ego, but how to stop.]
We say to you it's not about judgment. It's about sanctifying the relationship between them and you. There is no other way. Judgment bequeaths all kinds of ills and this we say is very bad indeed. The being needs reassurance that all is well for it, that nothing stands in its way and in this way judgment serves the purpose of persuading self there is no other attribute worth considering except your own. In this way the being usurps all kinds of accolades for itself and knows nothing more about it.
It's silly, to say the least, and devastating when believed in full force. People cannot get along in this way. There needs to be a pathway, an inroad to accommodate both to be successful and this we say is imperative for without this all goes astray and people no longer know nor understand what it is they are doing when deceived in such a manner. It is important to consider the other person's path and generously thank them for the information on that. So we say it is not about taking the time to pout about what it takes to be more like yourself as much as it is about taking the time to understand and welcome the differences which brought you together.
In and of this it is seen, never has anyone benefited from being criticized in such a manner. These are times long past and we say it's not important to acquiesce to anyone about their lifestyle. It is theirs alone and in so acknowledging that you are free to pursue your own as you like it. Let no one do this for you, and you will find the binds loosening up after a while until that time when you cannot find them at all.